Ewww I hear you say, Too Much Information!
Well, maybe, but this is such a rare occasion that I thought maybe it was time I talked about it.
Lucy is 9 years old and incontinent with faeces as she has always been.
When she was around two and half I decided that maybe it was time to toilet train her. It didn't go well. She hated it and refused to sit on the toilet or the potty. So I left it for a while.
She started nursery at three and they wanted their children to be toilet trained. Lucy was suspended when they caught her in pull-up pants. So we tried really hard to train her, it was awful but we managed to get her to wee on the toilet. Poops were a different matter but we thought they would come later.
At six years old Lucy was being diagnosed for Autism and Hypermobility Syndrome. We talked to the psychologist about her toileting problems and she told us to go back to the beginning and try training her again. We hadn't stopped.
Over the years we'd tried.....
- potties of all different shapes and sizes, even ones that made music when you pee'd.
- wall charts with stickers,
- rewards for getting it right (She didn't get any)
- restrictions on favourite activities for not getting it right (We gave up on this because it was too cruel)
- timed regular visits
- we read toilet training related story books
- activities during visits (books, handheld games)
- we even painted the smallest room pink and added girly pictures and curtains and a lovely Disney Princess toilet seat.